What to Do About an Overtalker

via What to Do About an Overtalker – The New York Times

Overtalker Alert

This is a waning sin of my youth, when I thought everyone shared my interests in obscure topics, political opinions, and often, gulp, my life experiences. As I grow older I more often question my ability putting words together into complex sentences, which has often led to mixed benefits and unexpected consequences, such as bored listeners. I realized early  in life that my gift for syntax, could also be extended to writing, and that led to more benign consequences. People are often stressed by having to listen to too much verbal stimuli, no matter the content is. It is never too late to improve. More recently I have been paying much more attention to talking less, when talking, make pauses of more than 7 seconds long to watch for response, observing people’s non-verbal cues that signal you to stop talking, and writing more. I think that the” talk less” approach is the most practical one for me. Brevity is a virtue.

Published by nelsongon

I love media and communication, as well as digital technology. I write in Spanish and English, fluent in both languages: speak, read, write, comprehend. I was born in New York, but was sent to Puerto Rico at an early age, where I lived until drafted by the U.S. army. Upon returning from an honorable discharge, I found Puerto Rico small and limited at the time. I moved to Boston where I pursued musical studies and later worked as a musician, teacher, and speech-pathologist in New York. I studied music at Berklee College of Music, Boston, MA, and Speech-Language Pathology and Audiology at various New York City colleges, including New York University, New York City, New York. I played professionally in Puerto Rico, prior to entering Berklee College of Music, and after finishing studies there I played in the 80’s bass guitar briefly, with various latin bands, including the Machito Big Band Orchestra in 1982. I was part of their recording that year. Once I saw the transitory nature of music, I studied speech-pathology and worked in that function after teaching middle-school and elementary grades in the New York City Board/Department of Education. In that capacity, I also worked for the New York City Department of Health as an independent contractor providing therapy and evaluations for pre-school and school-age children. I later worked in the high school setting in that capacity before I retired from the Department of Education. I am now retired and with my spare time, I pursue old, and new dreams, as age is a reminder of the evanescence and impermanence of life.

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